To those suffering a sense of loss of self-- Grieve, Cry, Then Find YOUR life
You have had terrible losses--feels like someone tore open your chest and ripped out your heart. Give yourself permission to really grieve over the life you have lost--life as you've known it. Let yourself cry, sob, weep, yell.
When you have almost finished grieving [it may take months] begin finding out who you are now, not by denying what has happened to you, but by incorporating all you have been and hoped for into what you find yourself wanting to be. Find purpose in ALL of your life by finding your unique way of using what has happened in your life.. It might be by being much more sensitive to and aware of pain in the lives of others and being a unique friend; it might be by talking to groups of women who have suffered similar losses; it might be by painting or writing. I don't know how WHO YOU ARE NOW will be expressed, BUT I DO KNOW that who you are is a gift waiting to be opened, and once opened that gift will bring joy and connection to you and to others.
Now discover what is waiting for you. it won't always be easy, but it will be REAL LIFE, and there is frequent joy in that.
Ron
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